Blew an argument at book club last night over a single line in chapter 4

The group was split on whether the narrator was being honest or lying. I pointed out the line about the rain gutter on page 87, and the host got defensive. How do you handle people who refuse to look at the text?

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milesbarnes15h ago

Tbh @angela728 made a good point about identity getting tangled up in it, but maybe the book club host just wanted to enjoy the story without someone treating it like a courtroom trial. Ngl, sometimes people need space to be wrong without getting cornered about it.

matthewking19h ago

...so I had this SAME thing happen at my fishing club of all places last year. We were arguing about whether this one guy's story about catching a 40 pound catfish was real or exaggerated. I pointed out that his own photo showed the fish was clearly closer to 25 pounds because you could see the length of his arm next to it. Guy LITERALLY started yelling at me about how I was "ruining the spirit of fishing tales." People get SO attached to their interpretation they'll ignore what's RIGHT THERE in front of them. It's like they think admitting the text says something different means admitting they're wrong about everything.

angela72816h ago

Can't believe the guy actually yelled at you over that. I mean, you're literally just using basic math and a photograph, not accusing him of lying about his entire life. @matthewking, people get so weird when you challenge something they've been telling themselves for years, like their story becomes part of their identity or something. It's not even about the fish, it's about them feeling like you're attacking who they are. Honestly, I've seen this in online arguments too where someone will defend an obviously wrong interpretation of a movie scene or a news article just because they already decided what it meant. It's exhausting, like they'd rather believe their own version than face a tiny bit of being wrong.